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How would you describe the typical Peruvian guy?

by Juana
(S. Cal)

~ Question submitted by by Juana (Southern California, USA)

Would you describe the typical Peruvian guy as:

  • Short, tall, humorous, serious, sincere, etc?
  • Do they make good husbands?

The woman's point of view...

The man's point of view...

The "Typical Peruvian Guy" from the woman's point of view:

The Typical Peruvian Guy
by: Michelle Dinos

I have been dating a Peruvian man for nearly four years and have spent a large amount of time in Peru during the last five years.

Based on what I have seen and on my own personal experience, this is what I can tell you about Peruvian men.

With regards to physical characteristics, I have found the majority of Peruvian men to be small in stature, especially compared to men from the U.S. or Europe. For example, I am nearly 5’4 and I am about the same height as many men in Peru, if not taller!

In addition, Peruvian men tend to be within the normal weight range, with only a small percentage being classified as obese.

With regards to personal characteristics, I have found men in Peru to be more affectionate than men from other countries.

For example, the majority are quick to hold your hand in public, put their arm around you in public, etc.

They also tend to be humorous and hard-working, as the “machismo” that reigns in Peru pushes them to be the bread makers of the family. However, this machismo also has its disadvantages.

While Peruvian men may be quick to show affection, they may be just as quick to expect their women to be domestic housekeepers, to not talk back, to follow along with what they want to do, etc.

While the level of machismo varies in each man, this way of thinking can cause women to feel disrespected and taken for granted.

In my opinion, I would say that Peruvian men do make good husbands IF there is good communication between both partners! This is essential as the machismo in Peru can lead to misunderstandings and resentment if women begin to feel a lack of respect or consideration from their partner.

If the man is willing to communicate and truly consider his wife’s opinions, that is a good man!

by: Anonymous

I'm married to a Peruvian man with whom we have a son. He is generally a very good person and eager to please our family. But!!!!!!!

He is controlling beyond what is normal for any controlling person.

He does not believe that he is. He truly believes he is helping us. Our son and myself.

He is not abusive though. Constantly in my head weighing out his good intentions and his control issues.

He tries to make changes but it is instilled in him to be in charge. I am Americanizing him little by little! I hope.

We have been married four years and as for what I can tell you, they are wonderful lovers. Ready for sex constantly. Bring on the ice and put in ear plugs.

Peruvian Men - Relationships Books

True about Peruvian men
by: Anonymous

True about Peruvian men very controlling and they tend to be dangerous.

They're not supportive and want the woman to have her own money.

They're too jealous also ...their touchy feelings gets under my skin most's sometimes unnecessary when we trying to have a conversation, think or relax ...ouch ! :-)

Finding help with your guy
by: Soledad

"Men and women communicate differently, and they have unique needs.

"A woman may long to share her feelings openly and often.

"Many men, on the other hand, try to preserve peace by solving problems quickly and avoiding thorny issues.

"How, then, can you bridge these differences and communicate with your husband or wife?"

Read more: Treating Your Mate with Respect

They are best
by: Maria

I love husband from Peru ! They make good family and love nice . He cook good and I like . He da one!

Peruvian Men - Relationships Books

The "Typical Peruvian Guy" from the man's point of view:

Build Your Marriage Upon the Rock
by: IncaSam

I am a Peruvian-born man.

Never cheated on my wife.
Never treated her as a servant.
Enjoy being with my wife.
Lover her as much as I can.
I am growing old with her.
We have been married 37 years.

However, our marriage is founded on our mutual love and built upon the rock of our Christian faith. We practice our faith in all our daily doings.

We are not perfect or without fault, but love covers a multitude of sins.

Comments for How would you describe the typical Peruvian guy?

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Help! NEW
by: Anonymous

I have been dating a peruvian guy for almost 4 months now,and he is a very nice guy but he lashes out sometimes when we talk over email. He does not want me to say "hey" or anything. He jumps into talking about having a family and getting married. Anything to expect from a peruvian guy that I should be worried about?

No generalizations
by: Anonymous

People here are generalizing based off of one ethnicity. Just remember how Latin men are in general. Native country men will act VERY DIFFERENT as compared to American ones. For many years of experience, I have seen that the ones native of their country are the ones to flirt, cheat, etc. Not the American ones. And this is with Mexican, El Salvador, Bolivia men, etc. Not just Peru, Chile, or Guatemalan men.

Stay away
by: Anonymous

Peruvian men are horrible. The problem is that they are lazy and monetized. They like to impose their rules and expect to be treated like kings. These men are terrible. They don't work hard, they just pretend. Their main focus is on friend acceptance and appearances. They tend to be under her mother's direction and are terrible husbands. Once they feel they are not being treated well, they will quietly seek another woman to support their standard of living. They avoid commitments and responsibilities. A bad man to start a family with.

by: Anonymous

I met a Peruvian guy on a dating app. He looked very charming and very educated. Firstly I was not very interested, so he did the love bombing stuff in a way that made me feel very special with sweet talk, cute messages, love songs. We did some sexting, online sexual interactions. Everything looked perfect and I fell hard for him. We used to talk a lot of times during the day. He made my heart beats in the way that never happened before. After 2 weeks he stopped calling me and talking to me. He was talking to a lot of women on the dating app. One day I went to his city and he called me all day insisting in meeting him. I waited him. It was very late, like 10pm and he did not appear. He claimed he was feeling sick, but he was dating other woman. He is very coward. He made me fall in love without reciprocating intentions. He just wanted to fuck me. I stopped following him on social media, but he found me, talked to me and kept me as an option. I should have blocked him on all social media, but I still keep him to remind me to never trust men again.

Stay on Alert!
by: Anonymous

I am an American woman who dated a Peruvian man. We had a relationship for 16 months. Since this was an interracial relationship, I was on guard since the beginning. There were several red flags that were waving, and I was aware of them the whole time. In the beginning, there were major "love bombing" tactics from him (he bought me new TV, laptop, brand new car, etc.). Now, in retrospect, I see all of that as a form of control. He starting belittling me (although subtle), and always questioned me why I did things the way I did. I am a strong-willed woman who lives/depends on her own, so he may have viewed me as a challenge. He could ask me about my whereabouts, but if I ever inquired about his whereabouts, I was dismissed and told it wasn't my business. Also, he lived only one street over and just about never invited me to his house, although he was always at mine.
His sister and her girlfriend lived at his house, and he viewed the house as "their" house, not to be shared with me in any capacity. Truly, his casa was not my casa. I asked him so many times to make me feel like a priority, but my requests were always excused and undermined.
Therefore, I took my power back and decided to end our relationship completely. I tried to have an open mind, thinking it could work, but clearly it could not. Believe me when I say this...YOU will NOT be his priority! His family will ALWAYS come before you. Unless you can handle that, you will never be happy. I know I wouldn't have been happy in the long term, had I stuck it out.

Stop the stereotypes
by: Anonymous

This discussion is absolutely silly and damaging to Peruvian men.I was married for 20 years to an American and 17 years to an Englishman who were narcissistic, neglectful and controling. I’ve been with a Peruvian man for two years and have never been treated better. He is a wonderful lover, kind, concerned, hard-working and very respectful. We always divide up the chores and expenses. He loves his family, but I always feel that I am the top priority and he is just as good to my family. So look at the individual, not the nationality when you are choosing your life partner.

we are a good person
by: Daniel

I'm Peruvian and I'm 27 years old. I don't think that the Peruvian guys are bad person. I would like to chat with someone to improve my English :) if you would like to add me, I'll be pleased ;)

Narcissist -El nino
by: Anonymous

I was with a Peruvian for 7 years on and off. He was the worst thing happened in my life. He was like a big child and mommy’s boy. Finally, it’s over but unfortunately I have a child with him and he keeps giving me hard time. He would get explosive when things aren’t the way he wanted. They are good at love bombing until they win you. He had big ego issues as well. He had to be right on anything and everything you can think of. He became a monster at the end and accused me of hiding money. I was barely making my ends meet while he was driving brand new Challenger and spending so much for himself. He never really helped me but insisted he supported me all the time. He would tell me that I don’t do any cleaning or cooking...Lastly, I heard him saying how his family never liked me etc. He was all about lies. He also had wandering eye and I caught him on sex chat naked in front of the computer. Every time he tried apologizing because he knew I was leaving him right away and tried keeping me. At the end I heard he found another woman in his country and looked for excuses to kick me out. I will just say stay away from these men. (Of course not every one is alike, but most experiences are bad!)

What is all of this crap!
by: Anonymous

I don't understand what all the fuss is about! Remember that not everyone is the same! It's just like saying that all muslim people are terrorists which they are not! So I say please ignore all the bad comments and terrible grammar and remember that everyone is different!

by: Anonymous

I can not speak for all Peruvian men but from what I’ve personally experienced they are major liars and "future fake".They are also extremely controlling and expect women to do everything like a slave work,cook,clean,everything with the children etc....They also have a wandering eye and cheat.They seem to put their family of origin first so if you are in a relationship with them you will be their last priority.Although in the beginning of the relationship they will go out of their way to win you over but after that it’s all down hill.I experienced physical,emotional,financial,and verbal abuse with a Peruvian man and they never admit to anything wrk g or negative it’s as if They believe their perfect.I would never date another Peruvian man after my experience all though I’m sure their are some that are good people my experience was so awful I’m not willing to even risk it

by: Anonymous

I'm a Peruvian woman originally from Iquitos.My husband is from Tacna,Peru.We we're married for two years.The first four months we're okay but a struggle.Things got worse and worse.After we married he wanted me to live in Tacna.Fortunately we never had children.He kept me from my family always.He would to me up and let his friends rape me.This happened alot.He'd hold a knife to my throat while his friends were raping me.Peruvian men are extremely jealous and demanding.My aunt went through a similar thing as I did until he murdered her years ago.My mother warned me when I was young about all Peruvian men being the same way.Wish I would've listened to her.

Peru men
by: Anonymous

My daughter has a child with a Peruvian monster he is horrible to her & rapes her, continuously belittling her. He thinks having material things is awesome. She works, goes to school, takes care of him & the baby & he wants HER to get another job to fit his sick materialistic lifestyle🤬 please beware of these monster men!!!!!!

Ex E.A.
by: Anonymous

My peruvian ex husband is very controlling and expected me to do everything form cooking to cleaning and washing dishes we both works full time and yet he wanted me to do all thr domestic stuff. He wanted full custody of our only child but I told him we can have joint custody he disagreed for him it is all about control he gave me full custody and he only see our child twice a montth even though he lives nearby and I encourage him to see our child often but he refused he said to give him full custody or he will put our child in the back burner as he will make lots of babies and start a new family. It is all about control and selfishness.

Im Dating A Peruvian
by: Anonymous

I don't know how to explain what I feel about my boyfriend because he treats me right, yes there are some problems and discussions we go thru, but we solve them well I do. In the time we have been together only 3 times he has looked for 2 times had started a conversation. The other times, I was the one who looked for him all the time and the one to start the conversation. I really don't know if that's bad, but I know I love him sooooo.... much and that I just have the feeling of not letting him go, I just have that feeling that I cant be without him. It's just crazy When I wasn't looking for a guy like him and he doesn't have what I wanted in a guy he just made me fall in love out of nowhere. In the end, we always show each other love and affection.

Be careful
by: Anonymous

I was married to a guy from preu for 8 years. He told me he never love me or had fellings for me. But I help him get his permitment resident card and. Alfter he got his card, he went out and got a grilfrend . The grilfrend is 25 and he is 48. We. Wear still married at the time. We are drivoce now and he lelf me. In a very bad place. I can't work because of my disabillys. He promised me he would him help and make sure I be ok. He never did. Be careful!

No all is true
by: Anonymous

The people is all perivian is like that

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